The past couple weeks have been nuts. I work from home; I’m the mom to three girls and the days leading up to back-to-school were like none other. Even with the first day of school behind us, I still feel like I’m running a long sprint. My daughters are 14, 12 and 6 so I’m familiar with this time of year: the 4-5 weeks surrounding that first day of school.
In my house, it began when the end of Summer was in sight. Each of my girls started getting nervous and made comments about dreading the new year. Their moods and needs flipped into another dimension. To each her own version, but my two older girls binged Netflix, crammed their last-minute summer reading, played way too many videogames and slept in until noon. My youngest was extra clingy and demanded constant attention. All three increasingly tattled on each other and talked back to me.
Then of course, there was the eye-rolling and yelling… but that was mostly me. I usually take their shenanigans in stride and have compassion for what they’re going through but when a lot is happening and there’s no familiar routine and stress levels are high, it’s practically impossible to roll with things like I normally do.
All of this reminded me of the many years I worked in a consulting company and the stress of the year-end press. It felt like a long sprint – like multiple 800’s back to back. There was a lot happening, much faster than normal, bigger numbers to hit and a full-on pressure to deliver.
I don’t mean to complain about times when the heat is on. I actually love so much about that kind of press. It can be thrilling – there’s a mission to win and it’s Game On. Everyone steps up and pulls together and sh*t gets done. Issues and problems get resolved quickly and there’s no time for the usual petty crap. I love how a totally intense time can also be a breath of fresh air and it’s a great mood-lifter when winning is in sight.
Stressful times can be exciting and they can be frustrating. We can be on our A-Game in one moment and lose our cool the next.
The best strategy to consistently bring our A-Game is to care for our own energy levels. High-intensity times, even when they feel more exciting than stressful, can zap our energy. We need to refuel. I used to think I’d recover in a big way after it was over. Some people are great at that. It never really worked for me. I’ve found that refueling in the middle of the intensity is the best way to feel great and to keep doing great stuff.
Here’s what helps to feel great and be awesome in times of high stress:
When you’re near the finish line and you know things will soon return to a normal pace, start thinking about what’s next. I’m not just talking about what’s already in your calendar or what people tell you is coming. The end of this kind of intensity is the perfect time to pause and think about your future… immediate or long-term. Ask yourself: “what would be fun and exciting?” and as you start to imagine that, know that creating your future is yet another way to restore your energy.
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